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We have covered many signals of comfort and discomfort throughout the book and have even eluded to their use in lie detection. To simplify things, I wanted to take the time to cover the cues we can use to detect lying as it relates to comfort and discomfort. We have seen how open and closed language can signal a desire to allow access to the body. Ventral displays shows that a person is open and trusting of someone and this sort of response is difficult when we feel we are hiding emotions.
Comfort is displayed through proximity and people do this by moving their torsos closer or leaning inward rather than away and will remove objects that impede their view so as to establish more intimacy. Comfortable people will hold their bodies loose rather than rigid, and their body will move with fluidity. Comfortable people mirror others around them instead of avoiding synchrony. Their breath rate will be similar and they will adopt like postures instead of showing differences.
Bodies show discomfort by increased heart rate, breath rate, sweating, a change in normal colour in the face or neck, trembling or shaking in the hands lips, or elsewhere, compressing the lips, fidgeting, drumming the fingers and other repetitive behaviours.
Liars might use objects as barriers. They might hold drinking glasses to hide parts of their face or use walls and chairs while standing to lean against to gain support. Liars might engage in eye blocking behaviours by covering their eyes with their hands or seem to talk through them or even squint so as to impede what is being said from entering their woman biting lower lip body language. The eyes might also begin to flutter or increase in overall blink rate showing an internal struggle.
Drumming fingers, fidgeting, kicking feet and so forth are burning off nervous energy — discomfort. Palm up displays show that a person has some doubt, and indicates a desire for other to believe them while palm down displays show confidence and authority.
Microexpressions can also be particularly revealing since they happen instantaneously and subconsciously. Watch for movements that happen first especially if they are negative in nature as these are more honest than positive body language. Positive language is used by people to appear more in control and polite instead of appearing vulnerable. Fake smiles woman biting lower lip body language an excellent example of an expression that can sometimes be put on to appear to disguise stress.
We know smiles are faked when they seem to last for much longer than what would be considered natural. Lack of touching, or touch reduction also signals discomfort and a divergence of ideas. Head movements that are inconsistent with speech such as slightly nodding woman biting lower lip body language though making a denial or vice versa, woman biting lower lip body language delaying head nodding until after speech is made such that speech and gestures lack synchrony can give liars away.
When gestures are done out of sync they tell us that a person is adding the gesture on as support for their statement. The entire affair appears to be out of the normal order of flow in communication which liars can often do. Keep in mind while reading these cues that they do not indicate lying per se, but rather indicate discomfort and stress.
The job of the body language reader is to decide why a person is stressed. Are they stressed because they are being put on the spot, because they fear being mislabeled, or because they are actually telling lies? As we know nervousness plays a big part in lie detection so we habitually connect the two sentiments.
Therefore, by this nature, we assume that any of the following could be associated with dishonesty. Here is a nearly comprehensive list of all cues that could be tied to lying or else associated with lying from the general public. When a child lies, she might bring her hand up quickly and slap her mouth closed, but when an adult lies, she holds back and might only lightly touch the side of the mouth.
Mouth covering is another way to reduce the pain of telling a lie. Subconsciously, hand-to-mouth gestures leads people to woman biting lower lip body language others, and see them as less honest overall.
When men and women initiate intimacy they always follow a very specific pattern. There are cases when some of the steps are skipped, but in most cases, they are simply accelerated making it appear as though steps went missing. While I have no experience with adult movies, I have been told that even therein, men and women follow these steps closely. Here woman biting lower lip body language the ten steps to creating intimacy. This form of touching is risky because it implies some from of connection.
If absent, can still be rebuffed with minimal damage and embarrassment, but still breaches personal space boundaries. The eyes first make contact with the lower part of the body, but hit the face in general, the assets — buttocks and crotch, chest or breast, the legs of women and the overall build of men.
If both see mutual attraction they continue to woman biting lower lip body language next step. Mutual eye contact is established which includes a long intimate gaze where the eyes travel over the face including the lips. Light touching of the hand, or hand-holding is often the first way distance is breeched.
The hand is intimate, yet risk-free, unlike say the breasts or the genitals! Other acceptable first touches include incidental touches such as an elbow, forearm or task directed actions such as helping to put on a coat. In this step, the arm is lowered closer to the genitals so is more intimate. This form of touching, since it requires permission and attraction, which may or may not be present, is highly risky and can spell disaster if not welcomed.
However, if it is accepted, it can be used as a test to move quickly to the following step. This step is fairly self explanatory but is a huge milestone in a relationship. Most women remember their first kiss long after men do, but even if men forget the exact details after some time, they will always recall their conquest!
When two people kiss they exchange a lot more than just spit. Women will let men they find attractive kiss sloppily, but mediocre men need to perform at a higher level while kissing! It has been postulated by researchers that if the unique chemical signature of men and women is too closely alike, attraction fails woman biting lower lip body language materialize, most probably due to a desire to avoid inbreeding.
Family members carry similar genes and therefore give off similar odors signatures and so kissing is one way to test things out before getting too heavy.
The head is a vulnerable part of the body so we only allow those we really trust woman biting lower lip body language get close enough to play with our hair or ears or whatever.
Touching and stroking the hair, plays an intimate and important role in kissing, especially the good kind of kissing. Having passed all the tests listed above, couples will permit each other to explore various parts of their body, at the exclusion of the breasts and crotch and usually touching happens over the clothes. Sometimes brief woman biting lower lip body language may be permitted, but this sort of intimacy still requires caution.
Touching includes stroking, fondling, tickling, caressing and are precursors to sexual intimacy. If all goes well, both bodies will become aroused to the point of no return, pushing them into the next step. Included in this step is hand under clothing. Usually either mouth or hands are permitted to touch the body. This step opens up fondling of the breasts under the clothes, and usually even permits the touching of the genitals over the clothes.
From steps H onward, body language lacks a visual component and so people usually dim the lights, turn them out altogether or close their eyes so woman biting lower lip body language can eliminate distraction and shift their focus onto their sense of touch and smell. Intercourse is a primal activity so requires just the right ingredients in just the right ratios to work. All nonverbal signals begin from the same origin; thoughts.
The kiss is no different since it begins with a desire to take a very intimate and important step in a relationship. As arousal occurs, women will begin to draw attention to their woman biting lower lip body language, but not just woman biting lower lip body language deliver a message, it is to alleviate tension that is building. Women interested in kissing will release this energy by touching their mouth more frequently, say with a finger or by mouthing an object.
They might pout by compressing their lips or they will apply lip gloss or lip stick. Remember that looking in the direction of interest is difficult to resist and when a kiss is envisioned, it is the mouth that gets the looks. While holding hands, a quick kiss-test happens by measured response of a hand-squeeze; if he squeezes and she squeezes back, there is a good chance a kiss would be well received.
Hair tossing is done by women to show off their luxurious hair to men. Hair tosses can be done by flicking the hair over the shoulder or away from the face. Hair can be removed from a band and twirled or rolled and placed on top of the head to expose the neck. Other hair signals include running the fingers through the hair to preen woman biting lower lip body language, wrapping the hair around woman biting lower lip body language neck or curling it around the finger.
Added sexuality can come with a lip lick or moistening of the lips with lip gloss or adding lip stick to make them appear red and seductive.
Having the lips slightly parted as if blowing a small stream of air through them can escalate the cues even more dramatically.
For hair play to be a sexual cue, it will be done in association with eye contact, absent of which might just be a form of soothing auto contact. Eye contact turns a fairly random gesture like touching the hair into one that is directional, meaning the eye contact sends the message to a person of interest. These types of signals are done by women out of their conscious awareness by women who are hopefully available, but not always, as a response to inner thoughts and desires, turned into motivators.
Women will deny this woman biting lower lip body language fact, but the results speak for themselves by increased male attention. I suppose this does give women a case, for while they may have subconscious sexual feelings, they may not wish to act on them, but because of their hardwiring do. However, now that you have read this as a womanyou are more aware of the underlying reasoning, and so have no more excuses!
Use body language to get the results you want. Have you ever wondered what the significance of the tie is in male fashion? Here Julie shows interest by playing with her hair. Any motion we do, even subconsciously, serves to draw attention to our features. Lip licking can be a cue of sexual interest, but only if other cues are present. No cue, by itself can be taken to mean any one thing.
Nearly every motion of the body can be construed sexually, but only properly read as sexual within the right context. Take for example proximity, which can mean interest, but independent of context, means nothing.
She might go out of her way to stand next to him even if the elevator is only partially full, or she might cast intermittent gazes. Unfortunately, these low key signals are often thought to be clear signals of interest by the women who send them.
From these cues alone, should he know what is going on? Men need concrete reasons to solicit because what women are asking of them is risky and potentially embarrassing. He might be doing his version of being polite, or gentlemanly.
Along similar lines, men should resist approaching any and all women, especially those that only put out mild cues. In this chapter we first we cover the most common sexual signals for women, and then we move onto ways in which men can signal sexually in the pages that follow.
